Pornography hinders intimacy in a relationship

Wendy Cornett

Problems can occur in a marriage when one spouse is involved in the artificial world of pornography.
“Pornography is not based on reality. It’s a fantasy world, and if an individual is involved in that world on a regular basis, they bring that mindset to their personal bedroom with their spouse, and it’s different. In your marriage, it is not like pornography sex. Pornography sex is not real,” explained Theresa Marie Abec, Sex Addiction Therapist at Serenity Health and Wellness Center in Maumee.
There are two types of sex, Theresa clarified. There is object sex – which is strictly the physical component – and there is relational sex, which is an emotional, physical, spiritual connection between a husband and wife.
“Pornography is based on object sex, which creates a divide in connection and in intimacy between a husband and wife,” she said.
Even when both spouses consider pornography as a way to spice up the relationship, their intimacy can be negatively impacted.
“Be careful with that,” Theresa cautioned. “It’s object sex, which does not unify individuals in a marriage. It actually creates a disconnect. And what makes marriages last and connect is relational sex.”
Theresa Abec is a Board Certified Clinical Counselor and welcomes new patients looking for assistance with adults with mental health issues specializing in sex addiction recovery therapy. Currently under direct clinical supervision with Dr. Doug Weiss through the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). To schedule an appointment with Theresa, call Serenity Health & Wellness Center at 419-891-2181.
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